You don't have a fucking cape and you can't fly. You may be strong, but you can't be everything, everywhere, all at once. If someone is making you feel as though you are in control of someone who is one or more of the following: mentally ill addicted to drugs chronically a dumbass financially irresponsible disabled and refusing to get professional help old and refusing to take accountability just a bitch Tell them to go fuck theirself. And after that, continue to remain sober, keep exercising, make that new healthy recipe and take that course. Self care pays off. Trying to do the impossible without the autonomy, doesn't.